Love Problems (Part II)

Shampoo · Post by **Shampoo** » Sun Dec 16, 2007 5:39 pm

LOL @ Nima

XD

SS Kakarot · Post by **SS Kakarot** » Tue Dec 18, 2007 4:55 pm

Thanks Shampoo and EternityOfPain!

Yes, love is very, very complicated indeed Shampoo.

She must have the Christmas card now, since other cards my Mom sent arrived (in this area) yesterday.
She has been on her website both yesterday and today, not on MSN, and have not heard from her since.
I myself would have posted a message, or sent a thank you E-Mail if I received a card from a person I had not seen for so long, and ofcourse send a real card back.

It's too soon to know if she sent me a card, but she could have sent a message or E-Mail by now, and she didn't, so either she did not like the card, doesn't want to have 'real' contact with me, or she is just rude.

The only reason that I can think of (if she's nice like I thought she was) why she wouldn't be on MSN, is that she sent me a card back, and wants to avoid me until she knows I got her card and wants to know what I have to say about it, but that's almost impossible I guess.

I myself really hate it when people don't reply if you ask or send them something.
Well, I will continue to wait, and if she doesn't do anything at all, then I'll know that she wasn't worth it.

Shampoo · Post by **Shampoo** » Tue Dec 18, 2007 5:05 pm

woa.. slow down hon!

dont accuse her just yet.
Remember Christmas time is the busiest time for postal workers period.
Right on up there with Valentines Day (according to
which day your country celebrates it)
She may not have it yet
hell, my C/C still hasnt received my bill and I had to take care of
a min. balance payment over the phone just to avoid the late charge.

Just be patient

I'm sure she will thank you about the card

RoboFlonne · Post by **RoboFlonne** » Tue Dec 18, 2007 9:18 pm

Since she lives so close... she probably has it.

You should try bumping into her in real life...

After you keep meeting then ask her out.

Everyone sends me Christmas cards.... I don't really reply to all Christmas cards...

So don't take it the wrong way... I get way too many cards....

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Tue Dec 18, 2007 9:18 pm

Women must adore you.

RoboFlonne · Post by **RoboFlonne** » Tue Dec 18, 2007 9:18 pm

Cloud wrote:Women must adore you.

Yes they do my dear, cloud.

SS Kakarot · Post by **SS Kakarot** » Wed Dec 19, 2007 1:04 pm

Thanks, yeah I know, I can't think anything of it yet.

I guess it's just that I don't know a lot of people myself, I must have hoped for too much....

All I know, is that if she does not do anything at all, no reply, no card, nothing, I will not like her as much anymore, as I thought she was very kind.

Oh, like Homer Simpson once said: Now we play the waiting game....awwww, the waiting game sucks, let's play Hungry Hungry Hippos!
I really am getting tired of the waiting game....

Shampoo · Post by **Shampoo** » Wed Dec 19, 2007 1:29 pm

if its that torturous why not just come out and ask her?

Ask :
"so got any plans for X-mas and Oh ! BTW speakin of X-mas,
did you get my card yet?"

Just be straight forward.

But refrain from exagerrated declarations of love lol
I'd meet her IRL 1st and get to know her 'really'

EternityOfPain · Post by **EternityOfPain** » Wed Dec 19, 2007 1:42 pm

I would say go shampoos route.

From the look of it, it looks like this wait is killing you... Just remember worst comes to shove there are many, and I mean many, fish in the sea. We men are like the fishermen and women are the fish. Good fishing mate'

mightymask · Post by **mightymask** » Wed Dec 19, 2007 3:40 pm

No doubt. If I can offer anything (seriously)

I used to pussyfoot around but no more. I've found it just wastes time and creeps the other person out. Just come right out and say 'Let's go somewhere'. Be authentic. Be yourself. Be confident. You know you're a great person. She'll see that automatically and if she doesn't, - she doesn't grasp who you are, she's not worth it, and you're off to someone else. If you create 'airs' or 'worry about how she's feeling', it's going to come off as weird and awkward. Let her know you're interested and don't take it bad if it's not reciprocated. I've found that when I had a crush on somebody, it made me nervous and un-authentic because I was trying so hard for them to like me and I would spent countless time wondering what's going on in her head. Wondering how I can get her to like me. I will never put somebody that high up again because

(a) nobody deserves to be put in a league above me (or below me) and
(b) that makes them an illusion of what I thought they were (when I was wrong) and
(c) it puts so much pressure on me that I can never make it work while being myself at the same time.

Like the post above says 'plenty fish out there'. The more you think and wonder about what's going on in her head you will go crazy, and more importantly you will most likely (at least in my experience) be flat-wrong about your guess.

miz ducky · Post by **miz ducky** » Wed Dec 19, 2007 11:35 pm

mightymask wrote:No doubt. If I can offer anything (seriously)

I used to pussyfoot around but no more. I've found it just wastes time and creeps the other person out. Just come right out and say 'Let's go somewhere'. Be authentic. Be yourself. Be confident. You know you're a great person. She'll see that automatically and if she doesn't, - she doesn't grasp who you are, she's not worth it, and you're off to someone else. If you create 'airs' or 'worry about how she's feeling', it's going to come off as weird and awkward. Let her know you're interested and don't take it bad if it's not reciprocated. I've found that when I had a crush on somebody, it made me nervous and un-authentic because I was trying so hard for them to like me and I would spent countless time wondering what's going on in her head. Wondering how I can get her to like me. I will never put somebody that high up again because

(a) nobody deserves to be put in a league above me (or below me) and
(b) that makes them an illusion of what I thought they were (when I was wrong) and
(c) it puts so much pressure on me that I can never make it work while being myself at the same time.

Like the post above says 'plenty fish out there'. The more you think and wonder about what's going on in her head you will go crazy, and more importantly you will most likely (at least in my experience) be flat-wrong about your guess.

That is some surprisingly good advice.
I'm impressed.

Everyone should understand the above and apply it.

To go along with that, from a girls perspective:

1. Being put on a pedestal puts pressure on the girl to be something that she may not be. You think she's so wonderful, but she's thinking "if you only knew the real me, you might not like me so much".

2. If the only thing you tell a girl is how great she is, then that conversation gets really old really quick.

3. Girls don't want worshippers they want companions (or if they do want worshippers then you aren't going to be the only one), so be a good friend and hopefully your good traits will make you stand out above the rest.

mightymask · Post by **mightymask** » Thu Dec 20, 2007 3:20 pm

miz ducky wrote:
That is some surprisingly good advice.
I'm impressed.
Everyone should understand the above and apply it.

To go along with that, from a girls perspective:

1. Being put on a pedestal puts pressure on the girl to be something that she may not be. You think she's so wonderful, but she's thinking "if you only knew the real me, you might not like me so much".

2. If the only thing you tell a girl is how great she is, then that conversation gets really old really quick.

3. Girls don't want worshippers they want companions (or if they do want worshippers then you aren't going to be the only one), so be a good friend and hopefully your good traits will make you stand out above the rest.

Wat you talkin bout 'Surprisingly'??!!! Thanks a lot Duck - Look, even though I still wear batman underwear and wet the bed I still have an urivaled view of the grand scheme of life. BTW - Your points were insightful to me - but then again, I'm a bedwetter -

SS Kakarot · Post by **SS Kakarot** » Wed Jan 02, 2008 6:31 pm

Thanks again for the posts and good advice everyone!:D
She didn't bother to send a card back, not even an online card!

She has been online several times, she once said thanks for the card on msn, nothing more, and has not wished me a Merry Christmas, or a Happy New Year!

It's very easy to post messages on that Dutch website I was talking about before, and some people I never met for real did post kindly!

So, I've told myself not to start a conversation with her anymore and wait for her to say something, but I doubt that will happen.
Oh well, it's her loss I guess....