Dealing w Rudeness in Celcollecting How many are there?

[pixie_princess]

Hmm... So in general, when you hear from a rude collector, how do you deal with them?

Do you blow it off?
Respond back to them?
Spite Them?
Get upset?
Something different or a combination of everything?



Well. I suppose it was only a matter of time before I encountered a rude/mean person.

Sorry for the venting, if it makes a difference, at least it feels a little better talking about it

So, basically, someone made their way over to a listing I have on Live Journal and posted under a listing I have for cels and douga, that 'I have one of her cels.' Okay.... A Galaxia Icon. Hmm. She must like Galaxia or want to collect Galaxia Cels. I figured I'd blow off the rudeness and ask if she has a cel site, or if she was talking about a certain cel in particular and post as such. I then made my way over to the Sailormoon fans community. Low and behold I found her again, using the same avatar choice out of several that she had to choose from.

Turns out she's looking for villian cels from Sailormoon. Ok, I figured, hey, I can help her out and point her over here. Then I started reading her post http://community.livejournal.com/sailor ... 56474.html
Ok, maybe she's being tongue-in cheek with the last comment, but it still is pretty dumb to ask for help and then tell people that she wants to see who has what so she can steal it.
She just basically goes on and starts ranting about people and how they should sell their cels to her (I am guessing this is a girl) and how they are
just going to be sold at an estate sale when the owner dies. So in generallity, there is no point to the NFS tags...

I suppose I should have counted myself lucky to not have had contact with rude or mean cel collectors in 10 years of cel collecting. At least, I suppose, I'll be better able to understand the posts from others who say certain types tend to drive them out of wanting to collect cels or display them publically. Oh well. The only result her post has caused me has been to never want to physically sell her any cels or such of mine.

So, in general, thanks for reading to my vent.

[Mat4226]

Wow, I've heard of people pestering others about cels that they have; even spamming pm's and emails until that collector gives up and sells it or gets pissed. But I've never heard of someone accusing another of owning one of their cels. Making accusations like those, and especially on a public forum, is just plain rude! I'm not even going to begin talking about the maturity level of someone who talks about stealing one's cels.

In a similar situation, I'd probably shrug it off and hope I had a lot of people to back me up, like the great Anime-Beta community . If the situation got a little more hostile, ie threats, spamming emails, snail mail letters, etc., I'd probably deal with the situation head on. Considering the person hasn't continued their onslaught of false statements, I'd say they're someone who's envious of your collection and has real issues asking others for collecting help. You've done the right thing so far in your actions, however, it's up to that person to change their "style" of collecting. Being an ex-card gamer, I've seen many younger collectors setting out to "perfect" their collections with this bully-ish approach. I think you hit the nail right on the head guessing that this person was juvenile.

To add to the content of this thread, what does everybody think about the rudeness of offers? I often worry if I'm being rude by making an offer/counter-offer that seems reasonable for my level of want and/or budget.

[Cloud]

I'm glad you're impressed. But you don't know much about people pestering others about cels that they have; even spamming pm's and emails until that collector gives up and sells it or gets pissed?

[Caroline]

unfortunately, i have had to deal with some rudeness lately. but it is not in my nature to be rude back. i get upset of course, but i just dont have the time or energy to retaliate with more rudeness. so i get upset, and then blow it off. its just not worth it.

[redwolf]

I read the community post this morning (before it was changed), and from just that post it seemed more like she was letting frustration and impatience get the better of her, causing her to post stupid things. Of course, if she can't control frustration and impatience, she's better off staying far away from cel collecting.

I'm not sure exactly what she said on your live journal, so I can't really comment on that. Regardless, I vote that you ignore her. The community post was childish and nonsensical (and hilarious)...especially since the very things she accuses collectors of seem to apply just as well or even better to herself. Also, I'm sure the cels will rot just as well in her possession as they would in anyone else's possession.

[pixie_princess]

Hey there Redwolf. Yeah, in addition to all of that, she had emailed me using rubberslug gallery feedback. The message was pretty inflamitory. When its all said and done however, I'm glad she retracted her statement and apologized. So, I deleted my post on the community, since, I should have probably just posted it to my journal and/or emailed her/him privately.

I'll ignore the rudeones in the future though. That seems to be the best option. Thanks I'll just do what this smilie is doing next time.

[wELCOME cONSUMER]

Whoa. What a weird situation, so sorry you had to put up with that pixie. It is best to ignore rudeness. Like Caroline said, you waste valuable time and energy on someone who's ultimately beneath you. If you ignore someone's ridiculous behavior/outbursts, they end up looking and feeling stupid. Can't argue all by themselves, right? Otherwise, they look crazy.