Please help me!!! Completely non-anime related!

sailorsv13 · Post by **sailorsv13** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 12:40 am

I'm sorry guys, I do realize that this is not a self-help forum nor a posting for relationship advice, but I am in a real bind!

I have been dating someone (male) for just over 3 years. I care about this person more than anything in the whole world (I am the sappy romantic type). In fact, he seems to feel that the relationship that I desire with him is only the product of enjoying movies and anime so much. I have always felt that if I can carry out a romantic relationship the way I desire that anyone else could do it too if they put their mind to it. However, no matter what I ask of him, no matter how I beg and plead, he is not interested in trying at all. In fact, every time I try to coax him into an emotional discussion (even if it is unrelated to my dissatisfaction) he completely changes the subject on purpose and thinks he is getting out of it as though he is in trouble or something in the first place!

Our relationship is strictly surface if you know what I mean. We "hang out" and "do things" like hiking or cooking. He is not using me by any means. There is just that special connection/friendship/love missing from our relationship. He has no problem saying the L-word or anything but that is where the romantic side of our relationship ends. I know he is capable of more but he refuses to budge. He is completely stubborn. One minute he is telling me that he loves me more than anything and the next he is angry that I could possibly be unhappy and declares that he could not be trying any harder than he already is.

Our arguments (we both agree) go around in circles. I cannot keep telling him that I will leave him and then not leave him because he thinks that I will always be there. I cannot decide what to do. My dilemma is that I really like this person and want to keep dating them, but I cannot stick around for a beating all of the time!

Anyone have any advice on how to talk with this stubborn person! And please don't scoff at me! I am writing this in complete ernest!! I am obviously not used to living in the "real world" enough to understand how to deal with this! *Stuck in my fanciful anime world* ^_~

~ Bri ~

sailorsv13 · Post by **sailorsv13** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 12:43 am

PS: All the advice I have received from anyone so far is to "dump his ass"...it is kind of sad but I still want to seek another alternative!

ZombieBunny · Post by **ZombieBunny** » Fri Jul 14, 2006 1:52 am

Check your PM hun

Let me know if you want to talk more. <3