HELP:What is the meaning of a hug on a first lunch date?

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Wed Nov 07, 2007 12:51 am

Sometimes I think love is just a biological urge. Other times LOVE seems like a spiritual quality. Love, unlike energy or matter, seems limitless.

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Wed Nov 07, 2007 12:51 am

I'm glad your impressed, sailorsv13. I haven't heard anything like that before: sailorsv13 said I that was deep.

Carla · Post by **Carla** » Wed Nov 07, 2007 1:51 am

I wasn't that impressed Cloud!!!

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Wed Nov 07, 2007 1:51 am

Perhaps I misunderstood. What were you?

Carla · Post by **Carla** » Wed Nov 07, 2007 1:52 am

I'm EVERYTHING and ANYTHING!!!

Not Sir Phobos · Post by **Not Sir Phobos** » Wed Nov 07, 2007 5:05 pm

Blueheaven pretty much summed it up.

Hugging is a norm around the people I know however, even guys hug.

But if you think it went well then go with it and definetly initiate the next date.

Might I recommend bowling?

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Wed Nov 07, 2007 5:06 pm

How far up?

sailorsv13 · Post by **sailorsv13** » Wed Nov 07, 2007 6:10 pm

Great idea Not Sir Phobos I love bowling...although my confidence factor is low...I always end up getting like 3 strikes and the rest are gutter balls with no other points in between! Yikes!

Well perhaps I shall see him this evening at practice. I'm going to try and feel it out, see if he still seems interested in me I guess!

~ Bri ~

Ronin · Post by **Ronin** » Thu Nov 08, 2007 1:56 am

Not Sir Phobos wrote:Blueheaven pretty much summed it up.

Hugging is a norm around the people I know however, even guys hug.

But if you think it went well then go with it and definetly initiate the next date.

Might I recommend bowling?

Ditto! And a very good suggestion, it'll give you something to do/talk about and then you can go from there!

You're sweet Bri (especially for starting this thread!), there's no reason why he wouldn't like you, so have confidence and go for it!

ginga123 · Post by **ginga123** » Mon Nov 12, 2007 11:47 pm

a hug on a first lunch date, for me, is usually a really good sign that things are going well between you and the person your interested in. i should know-- i am still with him, almost nine months later, and enjoying every minute of it.

after i got an unexpected hug from him after our lunch/coffee date--it lead me to a new romance....maybe it will be for you too^^.

mightymask · Post by **mightymask** » Wed Nov 14, 2007 4:36 pm

You guys have it all wrong. There is nothing you can tell from a hug. Sorry. You want a guy's perspective? Here's what you need to do - Ask him on another date. Doesn't really matter what it is. Let's just for the sake of argument say it's Mini Golf. Ok. You're minigolfing. You pretend you trip on something only to run into him. Make sure your hand firmly meets his crotch. Latch on. Then sheepishly look up him. Giggle slightly. Let go slowly and say 'oh. Gomen' (the Japanese will get him hot). Either one of two things are going to happen. One. He will be upset. That's the sign he is not interested and feel free to end the date right then/there. He won't be upset. He isn't losing out on anything and you will have your time free to watch cartoons and eat cookies the rest of the night. Two. He will smile and most likely will attempt to make out with you right there on a par 3 shot. This method is time-tested and proven. Please heed my advice. If it doesn't work out, you're better off. Otherwise, let me know when the wedding is.

EternityOfPain · Post by **EternityOfPain** » Wed Nov 14, 2007 5:05 pm

mightymask wrote:You guys have it all wrong. There is nothing you can tell from a hug. Sorry. You want a guy's perspective? Here's what you need to do - Ask him on another date. Doesn't really matter what it is. Let's just for the sake of argument say it's Mini Golf. Ok. You're minigolfing. You pretend you trip on something only to run into him. Make sure your hand firmly meets his crotch. Latch on. Then sheepishly look up him. Giggle slightly. Let go slowly and say 'oh. Gomen' (the Japanese will get him hot). Either one of two things are going to happen. One. He will be upset. That's the sign he is not interested and feel free to end the date right then/there. He won't be upset. He isn't losing out on anything and you will have your time free to watch cartoons and eat cookies the rest of the night. Two. He will smile and most likely will attempt to make out with you right there on a par 3 shot. This method is time-tested and proven. Please heed my advice. If it doesn't work out, you're better off. Otherwise, let me know when the wedding is.

. I have to say that just made my day. And I have had a really shitty day so far (been at school like usual on Wednesdays from 6 AM till 10 PM....

sailorsv13 · Post by **sailorsv13** » Wed Nov 14, 2007 5:40 pm

That was hilarious mightymask, although I didn't get to try it out....already worked the magic ^.^ So I guess I should update now:
We've gone out a couple times and hit it off in at least one way...hehe But now I have other issues. He really makes things awkward when we're together like he plays music I don't know in the car and is all excited and I'm sitting there thinking well I would participate if I knew the words at all...yikes. And he swears a lot, not out of anger but just in general to sound cool or something. He has a definite obsession with the ladies and talks about his ex's a lot...he keeps asking me out to do stuff though even though it is really awkward...I don't really know what else he wants from me....any thoughts?

He told me he is attracted to my personality and I couldn't really say anything back because all I could have said was well you're hot. Honestly he hasn't relaxed enough to show me his personality other than trying to build himself up and act cool...it is like he is just immature.

~ Bri ~

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Wed Nov 14, 2007 5:40 pm

Not really? Tell me about your educational background.

Not Sir Phobos · Post by **Not Sir Phobos** » Wed Nov 14, 2007 5:47 pm

Sounds to me like you guys are having personality conflicts. Which is exactly what dating is supposed to illuminate. Invite him to some things that you enjoy doing, the continuation or end of the relationship will quickly reveal itself.