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It was my birthday but I have been pretty bad shape now.....

Basically I have been very depressed b/c I am so worried about job changing.....

It is supposed to be exciting and supposed to be great thing but I started missing this place and also I am not sure that I did choose right thing.

So I had job offers from NCSU and UK. I took UK but now I feel that I choose wrong thing. Today I visited NCSU genomic center for my research and people there were pretty sad that I terned down their offer..... :( :(

So I do really feel bad......

Also NCSU has better reputations and better genomic center etc etc....

I just do not know many ppl in UK so I have no idea how it ganna be......

I am very very very worried..... :( :( and I am missing this place......

I just cannot sleep and depressed....... I know I am just wynning but I just cannot help it.

Plz plz plz plz give me some moral support??? Plz???
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hmmm a simple solution would be think of this as a learning experince. a steping stone to something maybe better in life, dont be so hard on yerself things will get better.
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If I remember correctly, UK was more $$$$$?
More $$$ means more Kenshin cels! :bny :bny :bny
Concentrate on the cels! :wink:

Sure you'll miss your friends and all the familiar surroundings, but you have to concentrate on what made you decide on UK. All the good and positive things. Remember those, and look forward to them.

Start planning what you want to do when you get there. The types of fun things you want to do. What places you want to see and learn about.

Just remember that it's perfectly normal to feel bad about leaving. It never gets any easier, and it's something you just have to get through.

Once you get there, you'll be so busy getting set up, by the time you get all settled, the pain will have lessened. :friends:
You'll be fine.
You made the right decision. :friends:
You wighed all the pros and cons many times.
Trust that you made the right decision. And remember that your hubby is right with you. He is also supporting your decision.

Now just focus on the positives! :ewhip:
But you're allowed to feel a little bad, and maybe cry a bit too.
You made the right decision.

Now shouldn't you be busy packing? :wink:
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Hey sweetie, I know *exactly* what you're going through. Last week, packing up my old office, I was a *basket case.* And I only moved from one office to another in the same building!! :? Once I got myself down there, though, it was wonderful -- it's just going to be a new adventure!

You're going to see your present work family at conferences, you can talk to them over the internet every day, if you want AND... don't forget this... nobody ever said that taking this new job means that you have to stay there forever. We've had people cycle in and out of our faculty after just a couple of years. They say it's fairly normal, actually -- only the lazy butts like me stay in one place forever and a day ;-)

You've landed yourself a plum position with great pay. You need to stop second guessing yourself and save all that energy to kick butt and take names in the new place, publish all over the place, and -- here's the good part -- be in a position where if you decide for some reason that you don't like it there, you'll be able to pick and choose your next job AGAIN! :-)

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You're going to be great!

(p.S. -- Pervish one, my guess is that she needs to wait until the end of the semester before she packs, given that she's teaching classes :P )
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Post by shellie »

Leah and Kay got it just right, kittens. It will be hard not to be sad when you are standing right in the middle of the decision and the people you turned down. You knew when you made the decision to move that you made the more challenging decision ... but the new adventure was half the reason you decided to go for UK, right? And don't I remember that they had a lesser work load and the mathematical specialty you liked best too? You took a lot of time in making your decision, so rely on it being the right one.

It's always hard to say goodbye to familiar surroundings and the people we know. Change is hard! Staying right where you are would have been the EASY choice, but not necessarily the BEST choice! I think you made the best choice!! So it's not bad to shed a few tears when you say goodbye, but don't lose sight of the great place you're going! They will LOVE you at UK, and you'll settle in there in no time and wonder why you ever worried about leaving your old place. :ghug:
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*huuuuuuugs* Kittens!!!! :^^: I know how you feel!!! But every kind of change is hard. I agree with Aernath! Focus on why you took the job and what is good about it rather than what you will miss. You aren't going to never ever see your workmates again!!! :D

And more money is really good! It's great that you're in such demand! :yay Cheer up, it'll take a while for you to get settled, but I'm sure you'll like it just as much if not more once you get into the swing of things. :ghug:
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aernath wrote: Now shouldn't you be busy packing? :wink:
Thanks, aernath :D But yeah I should not pack them yet :P :P I have to finish teaching :P like Baakay said :P

We are moving in the middle of July :)

Thanks, Baakay /kis I know that I do not have to stay in the same place (that is what ppl in NCSU said :P :P) and they said I can go back there if I would like :P (that is nice of them :) )
But I do not want to move if I do not have to..... I wish I would like to stay there for a loooooooooooooong time......

Stupid me through..... I knew I would feel horrible after my decision X| X|

shellie: Yes, this is much much tougher I think. UK does not have a strong genetic team like here..... SO they are middle of building it. So it is much more challenging and like you said it is not easy...... This is a part of why we choose and this is why I am scared :( :( :(

Thank you so much for encouragement...... I know I should trust myself but I am the last person to trust myself :(

Lynxa: Thank you :) /kis Yeah this is what my hubby said (keeps saying ) to me..... But it is not easy to leave a familier place :( :(

Thank you guys :friends: I really needed someone to talk to (I called my best buddies but there were not there!) I do really feel better...... Thank you! /kis
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Oh, and don't forget we love you too!
And you can't just "move away" from us either!!! MUWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! :dgrin

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aernath wrote:Oh, and don't forget we love you too!
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww...... THank you /kis /kis2
aernath wrote: And you can't just "move away" from us either!!! MUWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! :dgrin
Heeheehee No worries :) I am not ganna move away from you ;) ;)
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Bah. You're looking for support in the wrong place. We have no morals
here...especially Perv-chan.
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I knew I felt my ears burning! :P
:yay Yay! Ky's back! :wink:
*runs off to look up this word "morals"*
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aernath wrote:I*runs off to look up this word "morals"*
/hmm

*flipping through dictionary*

M...O...R...O...N...

no, wait, wrong word. Morals? Nope, can't find it...
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Post by vapalla »

Remember that you really enjoyed visiting the school in Kentucky. I know the path you took was the scarier, but after moving to the US to study, this should be easier. I suspect you have an adventurous spirit, and once you are there, you will do very well in your new surroundings.
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kymaera wrote:Bah. You're looking for support in the wrong place. We have no morals
here...especially Perv-chan.
Heeheehee :rollin Poor pervy :D :D
M...O...R...O...N...
Maybe that is the right word...... was it :P :P

Thanks, vapalla :) :) Yeah I know..... I kept telling myself as well too :) :)

Yesterday I was schedulling my summer and I realized that I will not be in NC so oftern b/c I will be travelling a lot..... So I might not have time to be depressed :P :P
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Post by HotIce »

I have no words of wisdom, plenty of words, but no wisdom :P... but I just wanted to offer a

*BIG HUG*

and to let you know, that things will work out in the end, somehow... they always do. =)
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