Anime, a talking point on dates- ADVICE?!
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Huh. I don't know.
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Ditto. I would definitely stay away from depressing movies for date material.iceman57 wrote:
Sylia wrote:
... than Miyazaki films to begin with as they have a more 'mature' universal audience type of appeal versus the 'children's/family film' type of appeal.
What about "Grave of the fireflies" from the Ghibli studio
That one made me cry. It was good, but majorly depressing. :'(
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It was fun reading through the comments/suggestions people have written so thanks for posting!
Iceman, as much as I love Purple Eyes too, that kind of love is on a completely different level to a frist date ^__^
With regard to your comment on asking for advice via the internet, to be honest, I have a good idea on how to approach the subject and I'm not a novice to dating. Without wanting to appear deceptive I wanted to create this thread to generate discussion on a pleasant subject which is opposed to much of the negativity I've been witnessing recently. As everyone tends to have thoughts on this subject, I thought it's worth having a chat about it!
OK, so I had the date last night- want to know how it turned out?
We met up in a lovely pub close to where she lives. It was a 45min drive for me and I got there a few minutes early because I didn't know the area. Better to be early than late!
We sat down with a drink and she quickly dominated the conversation, not to be rude, I let her continue because it gave me a good idea of the subjects important to her. An hour on and it felt as though she didn't come up for air! She's good with words and the conversation wasn't boring but I could barely get a word in edgeways! It turns out she has a friend who works for Disney in France, so she's quite receptive to the whole animation subject, even though she doesn't know much about it.
In fact she brought up this subject, not me. I think it was because I had mentioned it in a prior email.
When she enquired about it I mentioned the link to Japanese pop culture and how there are so many different genres catering to all demographics/audiences. She seemed to appreciate that and didn't poo-poo it.
We ordered a meal and she admitted that she ws talking too much- I agreed and said she did talk a lot but it was only because some people need to be told how they're projecting themselves because they can't often see it. She admitted she was nervous, which I thought was sweet. I told her there was no need to feel that way and made a joke about the whole 'forced' scenario of a one-to-one date. She then said that she felt much calmer, which was good.
We ended the evening on a high and after I paid for the meal, said that she could pay for the next outing because she was taking me to the Ritz
I'd like to see her again; because of the nerves it's difficult to gauge someone fully on the first date, but I think we have enough in common to persue things.
On Sunday I have another date set up and I know some of your will think that's bad form, but at the initial stage of dating, we're all just friends and there's no sense of commitment so I don't feel a loyalty towards one person. She's a feisty one (as we've been having a lot of banter via email/chat) so I'll have to handle the anime/art subject conservatively, although she's already called me "anime boy" a couple of times so she must be getting her head around it already.
I'll let you know how that turns out too if you're interested.
Thank you for all the comments, I hope that it's also given others an insight into how we project our interests towards other people.
Iceman, as much as I love Purple Eyes too, that kind of love is on a completely different level to a frist date ^__^
You're right about not knowing her too well, Sylia. We met on a Dating website, I got in touch with her because she sounded interesting, very creative. She works as a Stage Actress and runs her own business teaching drama classes to childen of all ages. As such, I thought she'd be open to all sorts of artistic mediums as I am and that's a person I can get along with. Apparently she must think similarly which is why we met up in the first place ^__^Sylia wrote:To be honest if you feel so unsure about whether or not it's a good idea that you have to ask the Internet for advice, that kind of tells me you don't know each other well enough yet and you ought to just focus on getting to know the real her first. Have fun!
With regard to your comment on asking for advice via the internet, to be honest, I have a good idea on how to approach the subject and I'm not a novice to dating. Without wanting to appear deceptive I wanted to create this thread to generate discussion on a pleasant subject which is opposed to much of the negativity I've been witnessing recently. As everyone tends to have thoughts on this subject, I thought it's worth having a chat about it!
OK, so I had the date last night- want to know how it turned out?
We met up in a lovely pub close to where she lives. It was a 45min drive for me and I got there a few minutes early because I didn't know the area. Better to be early than late!
We sat down with a drink and she quickly dominated the conversation, not to be rude, I let her continue because it gave me a good idea of the subjects important to her. An hour on and it felt as though she didn't come up for air! She's good with words and the conversation wasn't boring but I could barely get a word in edgeways! It turns out she has a friend who works for Disney in France, so she's quite receptive to the whole animation subject, even though she doesn't know much about it.
In fact she brought up this subject, not me. I think it was because I had mentioned it in a prior email.
When she enquired about it I mentioned the link to Japanese pop culture and how there are so many different genres catering to all demographics/audiences. She seemed to appreciate that and didn't poo-poo it.
We ordered a meal and she admitted that she ws talking too much- I agreed and said she did talk a lot but it was only because some people need to be told how they're projecting themselves because they can't often see it. She admitted she was nervous, which I thought was sweet. I told her there was no need to feel that way and made a joke about the whole 'forced' scenario of a one-to-one date. She then said that she felt much calmer, which was good.
We ended the evening on a high and after I paid for the meal, said that she could pay for the next outing because she was taking me to the Ritz
I'd like to see her again; because of the nerves it's difficult to gauge someone fully on the first date, but I think we have enough in common to persue things.
On Sunday I have another date set up and I know some of your will think that's bad form, but at the initial stage of dating, we're all just friends and there's no sense of commitment so I don't feel a loyalty towards one person. She's a feisty one (as we've been having a lot of banter via email/chat) so I'll have to handle the anime/art subject conservatively, although she's already called me "anime boy" a couple of times so she must be getting her head around it already.
I'll let you know how that turns out too if you're interested.
Thank you for all the comments, I hope that it's also given others an insight into how we project our interests towards other people.
This lady sounds awesome! Don't mess up and pull a Frasier Crane XD (for those familiar with Frasier's many botched date juggling episodes... 
). Only kidding you must be on the right track if she's taking you out to the Ritz lol. Best of luck..
Re the comments-- The Internet advice thing wasn't meant to come off as offensive in case it read that way; it's just I've seen lots of people asking advice along those lines with dates before online, and my gut feeling is to think that the woman or man in question is such an individual that there's no real quick fix answer unless you get to know that person. I had an experience once where I could just feel that the other person had asked all their mates and circles of friends in public about something first, and it made me cringe that they didn't just come to me and get to know me first... I understand the nervousness but it hurt a bit at the time that those opinions were taken into account ahead of mine. It might sound egotistical to say that, but I was young and I thought that way, and felt that strangers had no place in assuming how I would or would not be. But... I'm not saying you asked the question to find a quick fix answer or anything. Just overemphasising the whole 'get to know the individual' idea. Of course it's a comfort to get some opinions and nice to spread happy news... so congrats on the happy news !
And yes- films like Grave of the Fireflies and Mononoke recognised! Fair enough . I meant more that while Totoro and Howls' etc are cool, they still have that younger audience air to them. You can enjoy them as an adult but universal appeal aside, there's still an awareness that they are children's films. I might like Disney but I think a lot of people wouldn't necessarily find it a great date movie XD. Or... you could try it on someone and find the really cool, up-for-anything, don't-take-it-too-seriously date that way, I guess 
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Anyway, no need to offend the Miyazaki fans or the Internet advice bureau, so I'm heading out (*ducks playfully*). Good luck with your romantic quest, though- new shiny love is the nicest feeling ^^.
). Only kidding you must be on the right track if she's taking you out to the Ritz lol. Best of luck..Re the comments-- The Internet advice thing wasn't meant to come off as offensive in case it read that way; it's just I've seen lots of people asking advice along those lines with dates before online, and my gut feeling is to think that the woman or man in question is such an individual that there's no real quick fix answer unless you get to know that person. I had an experience once where I could just feel that the other person had asked all their mates and circles of friends in public about something first, and it made me cringe that they didn't just come to me and get to know me first... I understand the nervousness but it hurt a bit at the time that those opinions were taken into account ahead of mine. It might sound egotistical to say that, but I was young and I thought that way, and felt that strangers had no place in assuming how I would or would not be. But... I'm not saying you asked the question to find a quick fix answer or anything. Just overemphasising the whole 'get to know the individual' idea. Of course it's a comfort to get some opinions and nice to spread happy news... so congrats on the happy news !
And yes- films like Grave of the Fireflies and Mononoke recognised! Fair enough
. I meant more that while Totoro and Howls' etc are cool, they still have that younger audience air to them. You can enjoy them as an adult but universal appeal aside, there's still an awareness that they are children's films. I might like Disney but I think a lot of people wouldn't necessarily find it a great date movie XD. Or... you could try it on someone and find the really cool, up-for-anything, don't-take-it-too-seriously date that way, I guess .Anyway, no need to offend the Miyazaki fans or the Internet advice bureau, so I'm heading out (*ducks playfully*)
. Good luck with your romantic quest, though- new shiny love is the nicest feeling ^^.-
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Finally another FOTNS fan !! Woot !!Krafty wrote:Iceman, as much as I love Purple Eyes too
Not surprising at all, had the same discussion a year ago with a pal friend. This is a new way of connection and you'll certainly know her best than meeting her in a discotheque on a saturday everning.Krafty wrote:We met on a Dating website...
... With regard to your comment on asking for advice via the internet, to be honest, I have a good idea on how to approach the subject and I'm not a novice to dating.
I don't think this is innapropriate to share this kind of private affairs on an anime board till they are not too many private details included.
This is a kind of sociological aspect, especially when seeing how this turns in convention and the relay in the press with some "no limit" anime fans whom ADVICE turn to ADD VICE
Can be in touch with Ghibli due to our local distribution of DVDs. You can discuss about the Disney VS Ghibli era, or about recent 3D movies.Krafty wrote:It turns out she has a friend who works for Disney in France
Ask her about voice acting, can be really pleasant for both of you.
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They are not available right now, but I will ask them later.
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Way to go Krafty! I did try a dating website once without much success (and no Cutiebunny before you pipe in it wasn't because I didn't meet Rangiku San or even a lookalike). In a nutshell the women I liked didn't like me and the ones who liked me I didn't feel anything for. This happened both ways several times and I eventually just got annoyed with the whole thing and gave up. If I perseveared maybe I would have found someone, but I was just tired of the whole thing by the end of it.
But anyway my bad luck aside, well done to you I hope it turns out ok. She sounds like an interesting sort certainly worth further investigation. But don't feel bad about rackin em up, when I was doing it I used to be talking to up to 4 at a time. It can get a bit headbanging though when you have to write a whole raft of carefully crafted emails it has to be said. So be as mercenary as you like!
But anyway my bad luck aside, well done to you I hope it turns out ok. She sounds like an interesting sort certainly worth further investigation. But don't feel bad about rackin em up, when I was doing it I used to be talking to up to 4 at a time. It can get a bit headbanging though when you have to write a whole raft of carefully crafted emails it has to be said. So be as mercenary as you like!