shocked, scared, sad, angry, confused...crying *update*

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Fri Mar 17, 2006 2:08 pm

Anytime soon?

Not Sir Phobos · Post by **Not Sir Phobos** » Fri Mar 17, 2006 2:59 pm

vapalla wrote:Advances in cancer have been amazing in the last several years. I hope your friend is able to be helped by some of these and win's her fight. I'm sure sthe upport of her friends will be an important part of her treatment.

That's the hard part for me right now. I can't call her, I can't see her, I can't hold her, because if I do I will cry like a little girl and that's not positive. I had a breakdown at work and was sent home early yesterday.

kymaera · Post by **kymaera** » Fri Mar 17, 2006 9:49 pm

It's a rough thing. I've lost several family members to cancer and recently
had a few scares with other families and friends who thought that they had
cancer. Like everyone's said, the best thing that you can do is be there for
your friend. If it's got you this messed up, imagine what it's doing to her.
Get it out of your system, stop avoiding her and be there for her when she
needs it. Otherwise, you're going to feel guilty from now on for bailing on
her when she needed it the most.

hyelakingsfan · Post by **hyelakingsfan** » Fri Mar 17, 2006 11:10 pm

Not Sir Phobos wrote:That's the hard part for me right now. I can't call her, I can't see her, I can't hold her, because if I do I will cry like a little girl and that's not positive. I had a breakdown at work and was sent home early yesterday.

well life is like that. Its alright to cry. After letting out the tears im sure you guys would joke around and put the thought in back of your head. Well thats how i think of it. Just think positive about it and keep on thinking that she would be alright.

One more thing. when my grandpa was in the hospital i didnt wanna go and see him much because i too thought i would breakdown so i didnt go. Well he ended up passing away and up until this day i feel guilty and just horrible for not going and seeing him. Just keep that in mind and be strong.

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Fri Mar 17, 2006 11:11 pm

Does grandpa was in the hospital he or she did not want to go and see him much because he or she too thought he or she would breakdown so he or she did not go happen very often?

Makoli · Post by **Makoli** » Sat Mar 18, 2006 3:10 am

theres nothing at all wrong with crying. just buck up and go see yer friend luv tell her how much she means to ya, how you love and care about her. thats what compasion is for.

jenn-b · Post by **jenn-b** » Sat Mar 18, 2006 6:38 am

Well, as some of you know, know, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer last May 24th. Yes, that is a date that will forever be in my mind. She allowed herself one day of pity and all out crying. After that, the battle was on.

Never once did she ever think she was going to die. She has been exceptionally positive through this whole experience. In fact, we believe that it was her positive outlook that help make the treatments so darn effective! After her chemo treatments, her mamogram came back completely cancer free. "That just does not happen", she was told. As a precaution, she had the mastectomy and radiation. She will have reconstruction this summer.

My best advice for you is to stay positive. It will be hard sometimes, but do it anyhow. Cancer is more treatable than ever. Diagnosis and treatment has come a long way. But most of all, stay positive.

Mother has become the unofficial local spokeswoman for breast cancer. Just about every week, someone new will either call the store or stop by. They've recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. What are they going to do? How can they possibly survive this? Mother always tells them that first and foremost, they are going to survive it. Period. Never think otherwise. That's really the first battle.

birdie · Post by **birdie** » Sat Mar 18, 2006 8:38 am

Hang in there, as long as you have hope anything is possible.

Ashura · Post by **Ashura** » Sat Mar 18, 2006 10:06 am

Wow, this thread made me sad. One of my best friends died of cancer in high school. I still miss her.

As everyone said, buck up & be strong. Your friend needs your love and support. That is one of the most important things you can do as a friend.

Good luck NSP!

Not Sir Phobos · Post by **Not Sir Phobos** » Sat Mar 18, 2006 10:17 pm

Thanks guys

SilentBidder · Post by **SilentBidder** » Sat Mar 18, 2006 10:57 pm

I'm very sorry to hear that your friend was diagnosed with cancer, I know it's especially hard when they're young and the news is unexpected. I know it's difficult, and sometimes impossible to feel like you can get through the next five minutes let alone the entire day.

Not Sir Phobos · Post by **Not Sir Phobos** » Tue Mar 21, 2006 2:53 pm

Surgery is planned for Tomorrow morning at 7:30. I won't be around tomorrow. Marie and I are getting a hotel so we can be there for the whole thing.

Pray for her recovery....and my strength.

shellie · Post by **shellie** » Tue Mar 21, 2006 3:09 pm

Many prayers for you both!

Let us know how you and your friend are both doing when you get back home.

Lynxa · Post by **Lynxa** » Tue Mar 21, 2006 4:27 pm

I'm keeping your friend in my thoughts NSP!!! *hugs* It's DEFINITELY not a death sentence. My aunt had a double mastectomy last year to remove several very large malignant tumors and she's doing great now. My grandmother had a very large section of her colon removed due to cancer almost twenty years ago and hasn't had so much as a hint of relapse since. Modern medicine has made great advances and it sounds like they caught her tumor just in the nick of time!

Support your friend and help her through this!!! Be sure to let us know how it goes!

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Tue Mar 21, 2006 4:28 pm

OK I will try to be sure to let us know how it goes.

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