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DevoVamp · Post by **DevoVamp** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 7:40 pm

Hello everyone,

As I'm sure most of you remember, I left Japan at the end of July
last year because my father had been diagnosed with liver cancer.
Since that time, my mother's various falls and illnesses took up a
great deal of my energy and time, which is why I haven't felt like
talking to anyone since I've been back. I not only didn't have the
emmotional will, I didn't have the engery. My mother is doing
better now, in fact she's more like she was maybe 7 years ago. It's
a shame that it didn't happen sooner.

You see, my father finally passed away on Thursday, April 19. His
mental state hadn't been very good in the last few weeks, in that he
didn't recognize anyone, not even the little boy that my cousin
adopted. Malaki was the only one who could make my father smile in
the last month or two, but the week before my father didn't even
respond to him. On Wednesday, the nursing home phoned me to tell me that he had a high fever that they couldn't get to go down. Since
my mother was coming out of the hospital that day, we took her
straight to the nursing home. She and my sister stayed most of the
night, with my mother coming home to sleep about 11 pm.

The next day my mother went back again, and by this time my father was labouring to breathe. My mother told me to go home and take
care of the dogs, which was fine with me because I really felt that
I should take a step back and let my mother and my sister have their time with him. He passed at 6 pm with both of them by his side.

Needless to say, we're all very upset, although my mother is taking it better than I thought she would. He really wasn't himself at the end, his body really was just a prision for his spirit, and I must admit that part of me is happy that he's finally free from all of that.

I'm sorry that I've been out of touch for so long, but I really didn't feel like talking to anyone until now. I guess I've been waiting for this, and dreading it at the same time. The funeral is on Tuesday the 24 th, and it will be just family there.

Just wanted to let all of you know.

Much love to you all,
Tammy aka DevoVamp

kittens · Post by **kittens** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 7:53 pm

I am very very sorry for your father...... I am not good with these situation so I cannot say a lot but I truely feel so sorry for your loss....

SME · Post by **SME** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 7:57 pm

I'm very sorry to hear the loss of your father. Please take very good care of yourself and your loved ones during this trying time. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 7:58 pm

There is no need to apologize. I will play it on your soundcard.

minigt · Post by **minigt** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 8:01 pm

Hi DevoRamp - Although we have never chatted, your post was so touching, I thought I should respond. I too am sorry to hear about your father. I have personally had something very similar to me happen in my family. It is a very sad way to end a life, however Im sure he is in a better place. Remember him as he would want to be remembered. My thoughts are with you and your family.

blueheaven · Post by **blueheaven** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 8:27 pm

My sincere condolences. I hope your family is able to get through this tough time. Thank your for sharing your post.

shellie · Post by **shellie** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 8:36 pm

It's good to see you here again, DV, but I'm sorry it was under such sad circumstances. My thoughts and prayers go out to your family during this difficult time.

syan · Post by **syan** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 8:40 pm

I'm sorry about the loss of your father. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

tex-chan · Post by **tex-chan** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 9:22 pm

I am so sorry for your loss.

HotIce · Post by **HotIce** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 10:53 pm

I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your father. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

kizu · Post by **kizu** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 12:12 am

Kind of late but sorry to hear that. You and your family will be in my prayers.

I put Hot Ice's name for some odd reason.

But I'm sorry to hear about your dad Tammy.

Caroline · Post by **Caroline** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 12:17 am

hi tammy, i am also very sorry to hear about your father... you have friends here who love you, and feel free to email or send me a pm if you need someone to talk to. i hope you find some comfort here. big big group hug*

Not Sir Phobos · Post by **Not Sir Phobos** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 10:22 am

My condolances, I can sympathize with you.

hyelakingsfan · Post by **hyelakingsfan** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 4:40 pm

I am sorry to hear that. I hope you and your family will stay strong and just know that he is in a better place now watching down on you and your family.

aernath · Post by **aernath** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 8:14 pm

Hang in there!
It was good though, even if he didn't recognize you, that you were there for him.

Peace and Strength.