siting alone

Makoli · Post by **Makoli** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 3:26 am

for the last couple of months i've been taking stock of alot of things in my life as to continue collecting anime cels and etc, well that and not having the use's of the internet being a problem. and i came to the realization jesus im old im nearly 28 two years shy of 30 i have no children, not married as of yet and the high light of my year is going to anime cons!
geh i need some cheering up, help me please!

usamamo · Post by **usamamo** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 3:46 am

It is nothing to be sad about. People get dealt different courses in life. The marriage and kids will come later. For now...enjoy being you and having the freedom to buy cels, and go to cons. That is pleasure in itself. What you want will come. Have fun, be you and be young while you can.

The highligt of my year is the day after my birthday.....*phew* at least there is 365 more days until I am closer to 30.

Ahh too be young again.

blueheaven · Post by **blueheaven** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 4:51 am

I'll be thirty in February. I have never been married, nor do I have any children. I suppose it is different for a man in terms of the expectations placed on us as well as the ones we place on ourselves. However, I have friends my age who have been married and divorced already. My last real relationship ended about nine months ago, and I am always open to the idea of entering a new relationship. But in terms of marriage, either I do it right, or I don't do it at all.

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 4:51 am

Can you imagine being married nor do he or she have any children?

Post by **JWR** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 9:21 am

The thing to think realize is there is no golden strict path to life. There is nothing wrong with not having been married with children already. It is your life and your choice so don't let others judgements as to what they might think you should be doing bother you.

I have a female friend of ours who just turned 50 who for the 1st time found her soulmate. Some find them early , some never do. As long as you are enjoying your life and doing what you want , that's all that truly matters.

Not Sir Phobos · Post by **Not Sir Phobos** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 9:51 am

Sorry, but I'm not going to put a feel good message here. You don't like your life then change it. GET OFF YOUR ASS AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Collecting cels and going to cons is fine if you are happy, but you are doing these things and are unhappy. Stop and change. The one thing you can always do in this world is change your situation. If you think of yourself as a loser then you are one.

Think of yourself as a winner and be one!

wELCOME cONSUMER · Post by **wELCOME cONSUMER** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 9:51 am

But do you want all of those things you mentioned? Marriage and kids, etc? Society tells us we should have certain things and we tend to desire them because we're told to, but is that what you really want? If so, you can maybe re-prioritize your life a bit. But don't do anything you don't want to. If you're happy as you are, don't let social expectations make you feel guilty for living life on your own terms.

There's no magic recipe to success and happiness. We're all different. If you really want something, you can make it happen for yourself. *hugs* Cheer up.

Edit: NSP posted my sentiments as well. I was typing as he posted tho, oopise! But it's true. If you want something, make it happen. Go out and get it!

aernath · Post by **aernath** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 10:19 am

Plan your own life.
Then, when it doesn't go quite accordingly, try to at least enjoy the ride.

I've been married fourteen years, have no kids, and no plans to ever have any.

I also have no career, and no plans to ever really have any. I follow my husband and work wherever I can find it.

One of my highlights of the year was getting my Ichigo doll. For most folks, that wacked. But hey, it makes me unutterably happy, so there.

Baakay · Post by **Baakay** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 10:47 am

... what they said...

Now, someone tell ME how to do that

All exceptionally good advice. The best I can offer is my complete and utter empathy, as I'm going through the same sorts of things while facing down the barrel of the "50" gun. (eep! how the hell did that happen?).

Definitely easier said than done. But I'm working on it, and I have to agree with NSP that actually moving and working on it, rather than gnawing on it, is a MUCH better feeling. (just wish I could do so more regularly!)

HUGS, in any event.

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 10:47 am

Interesting. How many hours do you work? Yes, it's rather obvious when you think about it.

Baakay · Post by **Baakay** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 10:47 am

Cloud wrote:Interesting. How many hours do you work? Yes, it's rather obvious when you think about it.

It's pretty much a full-time job, Cloud.

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 10:47 am

24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Baakay · Post by **Baakay** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 10:48 am

Cloud wrote:24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Exactly! Boy, you're smart.

Cloud · Post by **Cloud** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 10:48 am

Oh boy. Thanks I think you are very intelligent too, Baakay.

Joost · Post by **Joost** » Fri Dec 15, 2006 10:54 am

I could join the club ^__^ , but its true what they say, you have to do it yourself to get somewhere.
And you are still young! now a days its not a big deal to get married later or have kids when you are over 30.. enjoy it!

travel, see the world, go to cons in other countrys...